Many people don’t use hypocrisy in the proper context. They’ve muddled the meaning. A hypocrite isn’t merely someone who says one thing but does another. I am very slow to assign the label of hypocrite to others because human thought expands and shifts frequently.
Some of the things I believed as a teenager, I no longer believe as an adult. I allow wiggle room for beliefs updates, converts, and maturity. Mind changing is allowed; hypocrisy is not.
True hypocrisy always involves a blatant lie. It denotes known deceit.
When my uncle would puff his cigarettes then blow the smoke in my face and say, “don’t you ever start these things…they’ll ruin your life.” He wasn’t being a hypocrite, he was being honest. He didn’t hide his use of cigarettes while bad mouthing the habit in public. He used openly and bad mouthed openly. He was not a hypocrite.
Sometimes we can slowly drift into the hypocritical realm without being aware like accidentally giving donations to a slaughter house because you didn’t read the form right and you are a known animal rights advocate with a website and everything and recently updated your site condemning meat eaters.
It is very rare that one is unaware that they are being hypocrite. Most of us know, rather acutely, when we have veered past the beliefs that we’ve pretended to live by.
The girl who preached to me about the wickedness of premarital sex whilst having it herself yesterday is a hypocrite.
If you scold someone for a sin and then find yourself in that same sin a year later, I do not consider you a hypocrite. You are simply a misguided individual who spoke too soon. If you however, continue to scold people for the very sins that you regularly indulge in, then you, my friend are a fabricated, fictitious, master of the stage, worthy of an Oscar, bona fide hypocrite.
Hypocrites are typically the double-lifer’s; you know, those people who live in two opposing worlds. People like the president of a rape prevention organization, who rapes women in his spare time, and the upstanding preacher who casts out homosexual demons yet maintains a homosexual relationship in private are the paradigm of hypocrisy.
The thing to remember about hypocrisy is that it is based on contradiction. It is not based upon changing your mind (truthfully), learning, growing, or changing perspective. I guess this is why it is not a good idea to be judgmental, preachy, or disparaging towards others.
You may find that you feel differently later and people will mistake you for a hypocrite.